Growing up, I never wanted to know what my parents’ bed habits were (actually I still don’t), because of the connotation of sex when talking about their bed, but I’ve found that is not actually the case. There is a whole platonic and neutral side to my interactions with your mom in bed!
Your mom likes a warm bed. At one point early on in our relationship, she tried to implement a practice of having me physically get into bed first to warm it up. That didn’t work out, so now when she’s in bed and is cold, her feet and hands bee line to anywhere on my body for warmth. I squirm. I know the feeling she’s after and I like it too, but whenever I try to do the same, my hands end up under my own butt. Sign me up for gender equality.
We cuddle. It’s alternates between who is big spoon and little spoon. When I’m the big spoon, I have a tendency to bury my face into your mom’s back. Because your mom’s so skinny, her back is bony, and for some weird reason I enjoy trying to find a comfortable area to nestle into. Your mom, in reaction, is very vocal that she has to endure my sharp chin digging into her. But that’s just all part of our bedtime ritual.
Your mom loves talking in bed. She thinks it’s one of the few times during the day when our attention is squarely on each other because I’m not distracted by my phone or work or games (she is mistaken because my focus is on sleeping!), so she tries to take advantage of it. What does she talk about? It’s more a stream of conscience about anything that wanders into that pretty little head of hers – where do I want my ashes scattered when I die? / When should we have you? / Should we go on a ski vacation?
She is often displeased with the substance and quality of my answers which might be something like anywhere / I don’t know / sure. She will express that she thinks my answers are half-assed at which point I tend to roll her on to her side and start scratching her back.
Your mom loves back scratches. She’s loved them ever since she was a kid when her mom used to give them to her (I suspect for the same reason of getting her to fall asleep). I ask your mom for a back scratch every now and then to see what it’s all about but I still don’t really get it. However, a back scratch will usually smooth things over very quickly, and I consider it my go-to move.
When I hear your aunt and uncle talk about their kids, it usually sounds like they’re talking about your mom, which I will poke fun at. Of course, it just means (and this is what I tell myself) your mom is a kid at heart.
As for me, I just lay there like a log. Usually on my back.