I would be remiss if I don’t supplement my last letter with another one covering the list of names I’ve occasionally used with your mom. These pet names are more controversial because they’re negative in nature and because of that, she thinks they’re mean, but I contend they can still be affectionate. For example, I will call her “dum dum” for doing something silly or dumb. I think it’s cute, and I’ll end up using it until she gets fed up with it, which can be anything from a few hours to a few weeks.
We’ve gone back and forth on some of these names for a while, so I finally decided to make it awkward for all our friends by enlisting them to judge whether the names are affectionate or not [please comment on your thoughts below!]. You might say it’s putting them on the spot, and it is. I have no shame about it.
The results are mixed on two out of the three, and I was unanimous on Dum Dum. But you will probably learn that it doesn’t matter what I think even if I have a million people siding with me, it only matters what your mom thinks. So I’ll stick to the likes of Baby Bear.
All that’s also to say your mom’s got a good sense of humor for putting up with it in the meantime! And don’t expect her to dish it back out because she’s too nice. I thought to myself for a long time “I wonder when she’s going to call me a mean endearing name,” only to realize this has been a one-sided affair, which usually isn’t as much fun.