It seems that everyone’s default response to your impending arrival is something along the lines of “Oh your lives are going to change so much.” To which I think, “Well yeah, duh.” But what did catch me by surprise is how much of it has already begun to change with still a couple of months to go: who we hang out with, what we buy, what we do…
Who We Hang Out With
Other couples about to have a baby or who have kids have become just that more interesting now for obvious reasons. There’s a new set of small talk topics that still feels novel to us and with how much and how fast kids evolve, I don’t see that losing its luster for a good twenty years. Then again, maybe we don’t want to hear about how adorable it is when someone’s kid just starts to walk for the tenth time. Maybe we just need to find others who love listening to us gush about you or Kili instead (I think these types of people are called parents).
What We Buy
Our credit card spend has gone from 100% related to me and your mother to 100% related to you. Your mother’s fantastic at getting the practical and necessary stuff while I’m only good at getting you toys and decorations. In short, I hope you like dinosaurs because you’re getting a lot of those!
What We Do
As I alluded to last week, we started intensive antenatal classes. It carried on through this weekend too. (Un)fortunately for your mom, she woke up with a sore throat this morning and I was left to attend the breast feeding class on my own. That may sound weird and it is. I wanted to go because I believe my participation is the best way to support your mother, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t feel a little self conscious being the only male there without a partner – I had no one to share crazy-eye looks with and I had to practice holding a baby doll in breastfeeding positions against my own teat.
But (!) I did end up with what I felt was a copious set of notes although when I read them back to your mother it only amounted to ten bullet points. So if you end up being a difficult one when it comes to feeding, I’m gonna be in trouble. I hope it’s not too early to say, “Help your father out on this one.”