We recently asked a friend who just had a baby what their weekends were like now. The answer was not compelling, but it led her to reflect the question back to us and it occurs to me it is a question we often get from others. I want to document this answer to make it clear your parents had lives before kids.
We often have people over on the weekends whether it’s for lunch or dinner. Your mom has always liked entertaining people (she’ll even host pop-up brunches for strangers!), but I am a bit more of a misanthrope. However, it’s easier to be a misanthrope at home instead of out at a restaurant, so I’ve also come around to it. Plus, your mother makes great food, so why not have a home cooked meal instead of paying for one? Lastly, just like in The Sims, you need to maintain your relationships with people by interacting with them. There’s no other way around it.
The routine is always the same – your mother orders the groceries online and makes the food (I occasionally help her with some prep, but can be most often found cheering from the sidelines aka in front of my computer playing a game). My job doesn’t start until the guests arrive when I offer drinks and get the conversations going. I might be a misanthrope, but I think I am pretty good at small talk. And at the end, I’ll usually do the cleanup unless I’m intoxicated (not that often!) at which point your poor mother has to do that part too.
About half of our weekends will be like this. The other half? All that other antisocial stuff you’ve read about it – binge watching TV shows/movies, fawning over Kili, playing Candy Crush, and getting in fights. You might read all this and still think we don’t have lives. One thing is for sure, we all won’t have lives once you’ve arrived.